Anne spoke to Deb and explained what she witnessed.  It made no difference - and we wouldn't want him to return there anyway.  The environment is too toxic for Joey.  Some of the kids know that they can wind Joey up and get away with it because attention will be focused on Joey's reaction.

So be it.  We know that Joey has his issues but we also know what a great kid he is.  he has;
dyslexia
dyspraxia
sensory processing disorder (probably)
ADHD in some form
insecurity issues from his first year.

We now are starting to think that this latter is perhaps more important than we thought.  Essentially he was very neglected and mal-nourished, his basic needs were not taken care of.

Given all this, he does remarkably well,  And we will help to do better.  First thing is to take the pressure off.  No school for a while.  Let him do the things that he enjoys.  No kids to wind him up at school.

I went to the Princeton Learning Cooperative today.  This is for teenagers who don't fit into main-stream schooling.  They are allowed, and helped, to pursue their interests and their passions at their own pace.  And, guess what, most do well, much better and much happier than when they were in school.  The guy there, Joel, was very helpful and understanding.  He supported 'de-schooling' Joey until September, which was very reassuring.

It will work out OK.