Despite all the progress, Joey still has his moments when the pressure and anxiety bursts out.  As it did today on returning home from school and then after returning from a pizza.  Usually something very minir starts it but Joey will not back donw and it then becomes a majot outburst.  We all get angry and then Joey gets very, very uopset and we feel very bad.  Joey needs support and encouragement but he also needs clear boundaries and discipline and it is not always easy to get the baalance right.  Anne and I are broaadly in agreement but there are also subtle differences with, I am sure, me having less patience and more insistance on firmness.  But it is a matter of degree rather than anything else.  Ah well, it wwas never going to be easy and, on the whole, Joey is coming along great.