Joey had a great couple of days at his grandparents.  No problems.  Lots of swimming, played with his friend there.  And has generally had a good time here after he got back after lunch, playing with kids from the 'hood, bit more TV than he wanted, playing soccer with Izzie and I (she is starting to show some promise!) but always with a bit of tension and his behaviour went down after we got him in to get ready for bed.  tantrums, tears, anger, cheek and generally deep frustration and sadness.  We are becoming increasingly desperate and worried.